Why do we R E S I S T change?

"Identify your problems, but give your power and energy to solutions" — Tony Robbins

There's a catch in following this simple (but not so easy) advice!

Its something to do with our “what’s in it for me?” mindset !!

Let’s see how with a cow story!!!

A cowherd took his cows to the meadows every morning and brought them back to the cowshed at the end of the day. One evening, as he was tying the cows up for the night, the boy found that one of them was missing her rope.
He feared that she might run away, but it was too late to go and buy a new rope. The boy didn't know what to do, so he went to a wise man who lived nearby and sought his advice.

The wise man told the boy to pretend to tie the cow, and make sure that the cow saw him doing it. The boy did as the wise man had suggested. The next morning the boy discovered that the cow had remained still throughout the night.
He untied all the cows as usual, and they all went outside. He was about to go to the meadows when he noticed that the cow with the missing rope was still in the cowshed. She was standing on the same spot where she had been all night.
He tried to coax her to join the herd, but she wouldn’t budge. The boy was perplexed.

He went back to the wise man who said, "The cow still thinks she is tied up. Go back and pretend to untie her". The boy did as he was told, and the cow happily left the cowshed!

Like the cow, owing to our ignorance, we all get conditioned as we grow up.
This conditioning includes:‌

Beliefs ingrained through repetitive injunctions as well as personal experiences

‌Behaviors cultivated through habits stemming from the ingrained beliefs

‌Boundaries imposed by self as well as external influences circumventing comfort zones taking shape from long term habits.

These are in addition to religious rituals taught to us all.

Conditioning resulting from several such sources induces scarcity mindset leading to perceiving a change in prevailing situation as "loss" or a threat to life at worst.

While it takes time to get reconciled to change as a continuum in the perpetual journey of life, the short term "upset" that status quo bias creates can have significant impact on one’s life.

This could sort of aggravate old festering wounds with the concomitant ripple effect of reaching a point of no return sooner or later.

An unintended side effect of the ripple effect could be a sense of rigidity getting "hardened" in the relationships, while pointing blaming fingers at each other as we get entangled in exchanging passing the buck situations.

While wisdom warrants us to be empathetic, we prefer to look the other way, drawing comfort from the short term gains accomplished through false sense of security influenced by our ego.

This false sense of comfort arising from the cumulative indoctrinations antagonizes us to change.

So, we turn blind eye to our problems and prefer to live with them rather than dealing with them.

This in turn blocks our energy in recognising them as problems and preempts finding solutions.

Effectively, we’ll be behaving very much like the cow, assuming imaginary Boundaries imposed upon ourselves through our unverified beliefs as real.

Tony’s quote mentioned at the beginning points to this anomaly.

It highlights what our real priority should be, in order to make progress in life!




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